How B.I.L.Y. Changed My Life

Parents share how the Because I Love You program has helped their families

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"Because I Love You offers parents essential peer support. The program works because it's logical, systematical and filled with the kind of love that says 'I love you too much to allow you to continue your destructive behavior.' As a counselor and a parent of three teenagers, I recommend Because I Love You to parents who realize that NO is not a four-letter word." — A. Kirsch

"My daughter started using drugs at an early age. I attended my first B.I.L.Y. meeting after months of dealing with our crisis alone. I needed all the help I could get. After weeks of attending meetings, I am stronger to deal with my daughter´s choices. She is slowly realizing that mother will no longer enable or rescue her. B.I.L.Y. has helped me immensely. I cannot thank this group enough for what they have done to give me back some peace of mind." — CN, Dallas

“Gave my son back to me.”

"Through Because I Love You, I have the support and help of parents with the same or similar problems. I have found workable solutions to overcome those frustrations of anger, fear and loneliness." — Paulette Hawkins, a B.I.L.Y. Parent

"The caring and support given to me by the group enabled my husband and I to take the necessary steps to give our son the help he required to get his life in order, and most of all, give us back a family that works together and respects each other." — Anita, a B.I.L.Y. parent

Hello Marie! So happy to hear from you! As I go through life and experience others with addiction in their lives, I constantly give thanks and sing the praises of my B.I.L.Y. family. I also express the importance of support groups. I recognize and am very thankful our daughter was able to have the strength to walk away from her herion addiction and all use of other drugs. It has taken her three years and a lot of pain to accomplish this. She is enrolled in MONTCO, making Dean’s list, is focused on a nursing career and happily is enjoying life. We are forever thankful to have our previous life back, and the ability to enjoy our daughter's life again. We are changed people and our wounds caused by daily life with addiction are healing. I pray for peace and hope for all the members of our B.I.L.Y. family and for God to intervene involving addiction. Please share this email with our B.I.L.Y. family, old and new. Because of my openness at work regarding addiction, doors have opened for others suffering as we have, to share and ease their burdens. We are forever thankful for the support B.I.L.Y. has provided us and to let us know we are normal. The ideas shared at meetings was priceless. We are forever grateful." — RA and FO, Doylestown, PA

"...we have seen the numbers of miracles and success stories in your Parent Groups." — M. David Lewis, ASAP Medical Director

"It has been a truly amazing experience to watch the parents , who often come to you burdened with guilt and self-doubt over their relationships with their children, blossom again into people who are able to laugh and relax, and (most importantly) deal effectively with those children." — Allan Rothstein

"B.I.L.Y. has been a tremendous wealth of support, advice, education, and love. They have been the best support group I have found. They kept my head together when it kept falling off. When my son was using and lying to me, they could read the tealeaves. They helped me stay strong and confront the issues. I applaud B.I.L.Y. and all the dear people who have been in this group. They taught me to face it, deal with it, and stay strong. Their persistence and support has seen me thru to see my son clean and sober for over 9 months. My son is in the Job Corps in Royal, Arkansas and will be coming home for a few days to go sign into the NAVY and begin a wonderful career. You don´t know HOW PROUD I am of this major event. My son said he has not craved drugs in over 9 months. He is strong, stable and advancing himself at the Job Corps. They told me that he was a great example to the other students there."

"... it has been my experience that the Because I Love You parent support groups are without equal in terms of their commitment to drug free youth and healthy families." — Jay R. Cavanaugh, President, Inter-Agency Drug Abuse Recovery Programs (I-ADARP)

"For those of you who think you may have a child using, please get involved, be bold, and get help immediately, and by all means, call B.I.L.Y. The resources are great."

"Our son started smoking pot in Richardson High School. He dropped out of all sports, started to fail classes and thought about dropping out of school. After months of counseling and hundreds of dollars of therapy...nothing worked until we heard about B.I.L.Y. We attended our first meeting and never looked back. Our son got his diploma, went into the Navy for four years, attended community college and got his BS college degree. He is a joy to be with and we owe this to this B.I.L.Y. group of loving and caring parents." — AW, Dallas

“Provided tools to live in a more peaceful, functional household. It is a place to discuss your week, hear suggestions, offer suggestions and support. It is my weekly therapy.”

"Our son dropped out of school. He smoked pot and lost interest in almost everything. He wouldn´t get a job, slept most of the day and came home all hours of the night. We paid his fines, his bails and after years of fighting this crisis, heard about B.I.L.Y. We attended meetings and owe our success to the caring members of B.I.L.Y. We still have a few problems but nothing like they used to be. After years of pot smoking and drug use, even though he is in his twenties he still have the maturity of a teenager." — SG, Piano

“Helped my family to understand our situation is not original and we are not alone. Supports us through our decisions.”

"I have two sons who used drugs. I found B.I.L.Y. after years of crisis with both of them. B.I.L.Y. helped me through very difficult times. I have one son is in jail and we are still working with him. I know the support I get from B.I.L.Y. has helped me through this. I could not have done it alone. I still attend weekly meetings and cannot thank the members of B.I.L.Y. enough for their continuous support." — RK, McKinney

“The upheaval and dysfunction is not as severe. When I do not engage, there is some peace and tranquility.”

“Looking forward to Tuesdays as a family, there is always something for all of us.”

"I am a grandmother and raised my grandson. He started using drugs at an early age. I did not know what to do with each crisis but kept rescuing and paid his fines and bailed him out of jail. I felt it was my responsibility to "mother him" and did not realize that I was enabling him to continue with his drugs use. I attended my first B.I.L.Y. meeting and after weeks of small group sessions, I got the courage to say "NO." I made some difficult decisions but they paid off in the long run. After drug rehab and jail time my grandson is drug free and gainfully employed. He has been drug free now for over four years. I am so grateful to all of the members of B.I.L.Y. who stood by me for months. I could not have done this alone." — AD, Dallas

“My family is more peaceful. There is less conflict.”

"My son never used drugs but is a good candidate for it. He has ADD and is Bipolar. He has been in and out of several schools and about to enter another one. The B.I.L.Y. group provides a safe place to share what is going on with me. I found a place to talk and to work towards solutions without blame and guilt issues. I am not at the end of my story yet. I know I could not make it without the support of this group."
— NN, Dallas

“Improved my relationship with my son.”

"Through much prayer, perseverance and being vocal about drug abuse, fighting my way thru, telling parents their children were using, hearing all the denial crap I made it. B.I.L.Y. is the best support group I have found and would love to be their spokesperson anytime. I can say nothing but good."

“Helped my boyfriend and I deal better with our respective children.”

"Thank you for being there for me, for holding my hand in the worst part of the night. Thank you for putting me back together again when Jeremy would relapse and I would fall off the wall. Thank you for the kick in the pants when I was enabling him. Thank you for opening my eyes and showing me all the things we can do for our children." — Paula, Texas

“Put us on a path.”

“It has helped me understand that when rules are in place, than I don’t need to engage but refer to rules being followed or else there are consequences.”

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