In 1981 my life was a crisis! I needed a place to go to talk with other parents who would not judge or blame, but listen, make suggestions and offer support. With the opening of my first Because I Love You (B.I.L.Y.) group in March of 1982, the light at the end of the tunnel was no longer a train. I was on a new course that would lead to personal success with my own children and ultimately, thousands of other families!
I learned early on that in order for my children to change, the first person that needed to change was me. In our weekly meetings this is passed on to other parents. What they are Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. doing is not necessarily wrong, it just is not working. They come to group as part of the problem and it is our goal to make them part of the solution. Parents shortly learn that in raising children in today’s society, pain is inevitable but the suffering is optional.
After the preservation of my own family, it became necessary for me to pay it forward. It became my mission to help as many families as possible, spreading B.I.L.Y. throughout the country and even to Canada.
With the support of our groups, I have witnessed hundreds of miracles and while on this journey have become convinced that it does take a village. B.I.L.Y. offers that village . . .
Because I Love You
The Parent & Youth Support Groups